Being a parent is tough business. You want to model love, patience, peace, and joy…but let’s face it, sometimes that is more than challenging because junior seems bent on destruction, frustration and attitude! Or life just throws us a curveball, and the poor kid gets in “the line of fire.” He just happens to walk in on your bad day and reap all the frustration and hurt you’ve accumulated.
I’ve been there.
Parents, please understand, you are under grace.
God’s unmerited, unearned favor.
Never underestimate the ability of God to magnify what you do RIGHT in the eyes of your children with your parenting and minimize what you do wrong.
I remember one day, I had just gone richter. Lost it. Not even 20 minutes later we are all in Costco and someone asks one of my girls, “Does your mom ever lose it?” I thought surely someone was gonna sell me out and say, “Oh, you mean like she just did in the driveway back home? Yeah. She loses it.”
But they didn’t. My children joyfully answered this stranger, “Never. She is calm and patient with us all the time.”
I was humbled.
When we got back to the car, I asked them why they had said that. Bewildered, they stared back at me blinking. “Why did you tell that lady I never lose my temper? I had just completely blown a gasket on the way here!”
“Aw mom,” Daly Kay answered, “You weren’t that mad! Naw…c’mon…that was no big deal! You never lose it with us.”
Now I wondered…did the child have short term memory loss? No. I searched her face and the other siblings as well.
Then I heard the Holy Spirit whisper, “Their sins I will remember no more.”
And it hit me…this was love and grace in action.
Moms and Dads, if you do wrong by your kids and lose your temper, go back and apologize. But don’t beat yourself up about it! Move on in the confident assurance of the consistently redeeming blood of Christ! And remember, never doubt the ability of God to maximize the things you do right in the eyes of your children, and minimize your shortcomings and complete failures. God does not continually remind you of your sins! He paid for them on the cross and overcame them when He rose from the grave.
Move forward in the bold assurance of grace and peace.