I used to worry when I began my website that I would run out of things to write about.
Ha. That’s funny.
Like as if having 15 children does not give me a multitude of subjects to discuss, weekly encounters with moms definitely provides lots of insight into what parents are needing to hear. Wanting to learn. And desiring encouragement about.
A while back a mom asked me a question after she had endured a rather rough morning.
“Do you EVER get to go to the bathroom by yourself?” Her face said it all…I am tired. Stressed. Frustrated.
And yet as she rattled off a few other questions, I could see that she mistakenly thought that her PROBLEMS were the PROBLEMS. But her PROBLEMS were not problems…they were symptoms.
Let me explain.
It would be like you complaining to me that you have headaches. You think that the headaches are your problem. But the headaches are just a symptom. Your problem is that you have a brain tumor. We can treat the symptom, but if we don’t attack the problem, your medicine is just masking a much graver challenge altogether.
So she thought that her problem was that she had no privacy. But that was just a symptom.
Her real problem was a lack of routine.
Because, I go to the bathroom all by myself…99% of the time anyhow. How do I do that with five children five and under?
I HAVE A ROUTINE.
Our day is guided by a routine and a rhythm that gives me plenty of time for a bathroom break…and when I had only Daly Kay, Ryli and Bliss…three children in less than 3 years…I still made it to the toilet alone. This was because I had regular times throughout my day where they were all playing in their crib, room or pack-n-play at the same time, or on a quilt, or napping…I had plenty of time in my day to take care of personal needs.
So this week I want to challenge you…are your problems…your PROBLEMS? Or are they symptoms of a real challenge that you need to take on. And please feel free to send me your questions and I will address them here with discretion and understanding…I promise. I am not judging you, in fact, you’ll probably never meet someone more in your corner than me. There is probably not much you can ask that I haven’t already encountered myself.
As for my mommy friend who had a rough morning and just wants to go to the potty in solitude…I feel your pain. Everyone needs privacy. Everyone needs the security of knowing when they can and will get a break. And that is the beauty of a routine. It provides you with a light at the end of the tunnel when you have had one of those mornings.