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Making A Young Man Out Of A Boy

Posted by Lyette Reback on June 23, 2015.
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David and I had six girls before God gave us our first son. Everyone always told me boys were different…just wait and see. Well, they were right of course. Boys are and should be raised differently than girls. Boys are amazing little creatures…full of wonder and energy, raw strength and full of grit. I absolutely love them. But before you know it, that little boy is no longer a toddler…and right then we must begin the practice of making a man out of him. A gentleman.

A hearty dose of roughins’ is necessary. You gotta wrestle ’em, toss ’em around, and teach ’em to put up their dukes. We have to teach them when to fight, and when to walk away. We have to show them how to stand strong…

And then we have to teach them how to be gentle. A young boy (beginning as young as four) can be taught how to treat a lady. Sisters are great practice! But caring for momma is a duty Dad should remind his boys they must do while he is away. Bringing her water, pulling out her chair at meals, opening doors when about town, and clearing her place at the table are all small ways he can honor momma. Teaching boys through example when about town of polite men who held the door open, or impolite men who let the door fly in your face. My boys often notice now that most men who do such things do not have a wedding ring…I like to point out to them that “He who finds a wife finds favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22) and perhaps because this man was never trained to treat women kindly, he is still single! My boys open the car doors for us, carry bags when they can, and bring in groceries. My two oldest boys are responsible for cleaning up the master bedroom in the morning and on more than one occasion have been known to turn the bed down for me before they go to sleep. Thoughtfulness can be a trained trait you know!

At an event with a group of homeschooled high schoolers, my girls were quite cognizant of the fact that although there were not nearly enough seats for everyone to sit down to eat, most of those remaining standing were girls. Trying to hold their drink and their plate (and handbag) and eat while standing was not only uncomfortable, it was quite a testimony to the lack of training and thoughtlessness many of the seated boys gobbling down their food were oblivious to.

In this crowd, one young man refused to sit the entire evening. He helped clear tables and served others. A quiet but kind spirit, his upbringing and leadership emanated as others squandered an opportunity to be selfless and caring. Something tells me this gentleman will be the first to get a fine young bride who will benefit from being honored and served her whole life. Any woman treated as such will surely be an encouragement and a strength to him through the guaranteed trials of life.

I used to sing Willie Nelson’s, “Momma’s don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up To Be Cowboys” to my boys all the time. (I also have been known to sing Johnny Paycheck’s “Take This Job and Shove It!” more than a few times…) But Momma’s and Daddy’s lets not let our boys grow up to be thoughtless heathens. Train them how to treat young girls, and eventually we will raise men who know how treat a lady right. In my (short) experience, the boys LOVE to be the knight in shining armor, they enjoy being the prince charming. Starting young is the key to stoking something that is innately inside most men, but if you have neglected this training, please…it is never too late to start!

Here’s a quick clip of Waylon, Willie, and Johnny singing…see if it don’t get stuck in your head as you swagger on through your day!
(yeah, I know that wasn’t proper grammar…just drawlin’ out my words as I saunter on singin’!) Enjoy!

June 23, 2015

Filed Under: Teens, Tweens

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  1. cherylplourde says

    June 27, 2013 at 11:10 pm

    Lyette, I was at Walmart today and thought of this post because there was an 80 something year old man arguing with an 80 something year old woman in the candy aisle. She said, “Go around me.” He grunted (really loud) and said, “No, I want to be where you are!” She said, “Then wait!!” I wanted to say, “Didn’t your momma teach you how to be a gentleman?” Really, your fighting over a Hersey bar that you will probably eat later….alone? I didn’t say a word. I did wait to see if they were a couple. They were not. I saw him driving off  alone when I was leaving and the scowl on his face was still there. It may be permanent which is so sad because he could have learned a better way and had a better (permanent) expression. 

    I think over-time if our children are not taught how to be ladies and gentlemen, that mean ol’ ugly scowl will show up on their faces one day also.

    Just had to share that your blog post went with me today!!! Training my boys to be gentlemen and my girls to be ladies! It’s not like theres not 1,000 opportunities everyday to practice this, right?? 

    Love this blog! 🙂 

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    • Lyette Reback says

      June 23, 2015 at 8:19 am

      So glad you enjoyed this Cheryl. You have wonderful young men in your home!

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    • Cass says

      June 28, 2015 at 4:35 pm

      This is the first time I have heard of your family but the way you teach your children is how I was also taught but now I have two girls ages 3 and 4mths and have a hard time getting my toddler to grasp as I try to teach. I get frustrated at times as nobody said it would be easy but I wonder if she will get it without meds to calm her as she has ADHD. Any advice as its very important to us that our girls are raised properly???

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