Santa brought crowns for each of my daughters this Christmas. It was a tribute to Daly Kay who has been working on writing a book about Queen Esther and just as a physical reminder of the truth that each of my daughters is a princess of the Most High King.
In Christian circles you run into all kinds. Some swear that Disney is Satanic. Some think it is dangerous to overload our daughters with the idea of becoming a princess someday, after all, what if their prince never comes? Some parents avoid the whole princess deal because they think that we should raise our daughters to see themselves as servants to others– so if we infuse them with this princess mentality they will become prideful.
I disagree with all of that and here is why.
Far too many young girls struggle with a real sense of worth. They struggle with how they see themselves physically. They feel like they have no voice. That they are invisible. That they have nothing of value to contribute. They struggle with an identity at all. They try to blend in and not be noticed because their individuality can be quite frightening. And a simple crown and a few verses along with heaping doses of encouragement from their parents can help assuage a lot of that.
Studying the book of Ruth and Esther has taught my girls
how the Lord views them…precious, beautiful (inside and out), favored, loved and adored. Glorious. And as a reminder, they tend to wear their crowns around town. Sometimes they get asked if they won a pageant. Every once in a while, they get mocked–interestingly enough usually only by grown men. Most other young girls gasp and ask where they got their crown and why they wear it…and my girls just smile and say that you can find them at Charming Charlie’s and that they wear it because they LIKE TO.
Moms, daughters, we are– every one of us— princesses of the Most High King. If we need to really wear the crown to remind us of whose we are, WHAT we are, if it helps us to remember to treat ourselves and our bodies with
dignity, if it helps us to stand up straighter and walk a little taller,
then wear the stinkin’ tiara. But if you want to raise a daughter who sees herself as worthy, dignified, and strong inside and out, remind her consistently that she is a daughter of the King.
“Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body, not abusing it…” I Thessalonians 4:4-5
“She is clothed with strength and dignity” Proverbs 31:25
“All glorious is the princess within her chamber…” Psalm 45:13
“The king loved Esther more than all the other women, and she obtained grace and favor in his sight more than all of the others.” Esther 2:17
“And the king said to her, ‘What do you wish, Queen Esther, What is your request? It shall be given to you up to half the kingdom!'” Esther 5:3