I’ve been married for 23 years. My husband, thanks be to sweet Jesus, still looks at me like I was the 19 year old perfect-bodied spit-fire he fell in love with. I’ve lost some of my luster, gained about 30 pounds, brought 12 children into the world, adopted four more, and lost my mind on him more times than I can count in the nearly two dozen years we have shared together. But his love for me has never wavered, never dimmed. And when I cry about my faults and apologize profusely for my mistakes, failures, and downright ugliness, he holds me close and it’s like he never even noticed. Truthfully, I am sure I have disappointed him or hurt him a number of times. I can honestly say I never meant to. Over and over again David has had to choose love when I am sure he had every right to choose anger. Hurt. Frustration.
Yes, we have had to have some heart to hearts. Sure, we have had to have some tough conversations and confrontations. Some of our “discussions” may have gotten a little more heated than necessary but we decided ahead of time, at that alter 23 years ago, that we would choose love. Every time. No matter what.
Y’all, this may sound corny, and I’ll go ahead and apologize ahead of time.
But this is the truth.
I was an American long before I was David Reback’s wife. I said the pledge of Allegiance every day in school and I truly meant it. I have looked at my country with love my just like it was 1776 ever since 1976 and I will always look at her with love and affection. My fellow citizens, who may or may not agree with me on gun control, abortion, the War in Iraq or any HOST of social issues are still my precious people no matter their color, background, gender, sexual preference or any choice or vote they may have made. Our differences in backgrounds, physical appearances, and freedom to express our opposing views is what makes this country so beautiful! Our separate experiences are what make us such a rich and varied nation! We are truly better together! Our strength is found in our unity when we decide to just love.
I LOVE our people. I love all of them. I love my fellow Americans and I refuse to let our differences split us any farther apart. Is there right and wrong? Sure there is. But who is right and who is wrong and at the end of the day we must choose to love one another and look at the world through one other’s eyes. We must have open and real dialogue that moves us toward peace. We may agree to disagree when the conversation is over, but just because we disagree does not mean we can not still love one another! I’ve been married for 23 years and we have had to say “truce” and agree to disagree plenty of times. David and I are two passionate people who rarely do anything less than full throttle…you better believe there have been times we have had to just move on and decide to love.
I used marriage as an example, my marriage that is not always perfect and our family which is not always peaceful, as an example of choosing to love and be unified especially when the hard times come. When the difficulties are overwhelming. When the circumstances that we are facing threaten to undo us. And surely, in our life of 23 years together there have been times where the proverbial crap has hit the fan and we have to deal head on with some serious problems. Sometimes, there are issues that just have to be worked out. And in the case of our nation, racism is one of them.
[bctt tweet=”Racism is something we may not corporately solve, but we can individually try. ” username=”lyettereback”]Make a move. Make a difference. Move forward. Open up. And choose love.
This sweet video is what inspired me to write this post. Because I believe America is Beautiful. I believe every one of her citizens is too. I believe God has shed His grace on us and we are a blessed country still reaping the benefits of prayers prayed generations before us by our Fore Fathers who risked and bled and died that we could have such freedom. There has been so much horror in our nation recently. We have a very real enemy sowing seeds of hatred, strife and violence all across this land. But we win when we chose love. We win when we decide ahead of time not to give our common enemies of fear and hatred another toehold in our hearts.