“Do everything without complaining, do everything without arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure children of God.” – Philippians 2:14-15
I can hear the nursery song singing in my head even as I write that verse…a tape I had bought when my oldest three children were tiny…it would play constantly in the car, and the song really did help cut down on the complaining and the arguing. All I would have to do is start humming the first few notes, and the girls would look at me and cease their striving.
Sometimes, I wish more mothers knew that song.
Ladies, listen carefully to me.
I know this job has its challenges. I know there are days when the refining process of raising a child (children) can look more like a climb up Everest without oxygen…but we should never complain. Never.
Children are the greatest blessings God ever gives. They are meant to bring us joy. Make us laugh. And make us take a hard look at ourselves and continue trying to be a better example to them day by day. When we complain, it is not only heartbreaking to God, but damaging to our children and our marriage. Are there days we need help, wisdom or prayer? Certainly…in fact…every day! But complaining is NOT allowed.
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I can’t count the number of times I have had parents look at me and say, “If you want another, you can take little Suzy here…she’s more than a handful and honestly she drives us nuts!” Every time, I am shocked to hear a parent blatantly disown their child right in front of the little one.
“Joey makes me crazy, I swear this boy doesn’t listen a bit!” Well, that is more of a commentary on the parent than the child. If his hearing is even adequate, then it is our follow through that is to blame. We only make a fool of ourselves and a mockery of God when we say things like this…
Then there is the more subtle form of complaining…the whining, the fussing, the fretting…by the parent, not the child! The “that makes mommy so sad when you do that,” or “it is so disappointing when you disobey me…” Instead of whining, let’s take action.
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No complaining folks. Smile, dangit! We know if something happened to our child, we would be heartbroken, so let’s treat them like the treasure they are. Speak of them like the precious gift they are! And when we are even tempted to complain, pray instead. Ask God to help us and give us the wisdom to handle the challenges we are facing with the children. And realize, that most of the time, it is meant to be a refining process FOR US!